Wednesday, March 30, 2011

How Do You Talk to Yourself?

Have you ever heard some talking to their child, saying, "You're so stupid. Why did you do that?" If you have, you were probably shocked and considered saying something to that parent.

However, how often do you find yourself saying "You're so stupid! Why did you do that" to yourself?

Why is it okay to talk to yourself that way? Are you not as precious and important as that little child?

I struggle sometimes with looking back at the dumb decisions I made in my life, saying, "That was so stupid! You should have known better!" But, you know what? I didn't know better, and I did the best I could at the time.

It's so important to speak to ourselves as lovingly as we do our precious little children.

Yes, there are times we need to tell our kids to "Get it together!" We need to do the same thing to ourselves. But we can do so respectfully.

I think one of the things I've learned in my 30s that I didn't know in my 20s is a little more self-acceptance. However, it's a little bit of a contradiction:
- In my 20s, I had little self-confidence, self-loathing, and wasn't really sure who I was. And yet, I had a huge sense of entitlement.
- In my 30s, I have more self-confidence, more appreciation for myself, and am a lot more secure with myself. However, I appreciate everything I have and realize nothing was promised to me.

And although this song is designed for children, I think we can all benefit from its message. And, since I'm so secure with who I am, I have absolutely no problem admitting that I listen to this song and feel a big boost in my self-confidence.

So, here's my challenge to you: Talk to yourself the same way you would talk to a child. Respect yourself. Give yourself a break when you need it, and give yourself a little nudge (gently) when needed.

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Stefanie D. said...

This is so great! We are our own worst critics. It's important to give ourselves a break every now and again. :)Great post.

Anonymous said...

It's true. I say all kinds of stuff to myself that I would never say to anyone else because it's so critical and judgemental. I read a book recently called 'How to Tame your Inner Gremlins' and this was all about silencing that voice in your head.

Can't say it's helped much...yet! ;-)

Great post :-)

Susanna Carbajal said...

Hi -
I agree 100% with your post and thank you for sharing such an important message. We all need to reflect more on acceptance and patience, and no matter what remember to "love yourself" everyday- here's a challenge I propose, how long can you stay positive with yourself? I've tried to see how many days I can go without criticizing myself and it's a hard exercise. Hope you'll visit me on www.momsflexbiz.blogspot.com and share some comments.