How Do You Talk to Yourself?

Have you ever heard some talking to their child, saying, "You're so stupid. Why did you do that?" If you have, you were probably shocked and considered saying something to that parent.

However, how often do you find yourself saying "You're so stupid! Why did you do that" to yourself?

Why is it okay to talk to yourself that way? Are you not as precious and important as that little child?

I struggle sometimes with looking back at the dumb decisions I made in my life, saying, "That was so stupid! You should have known better!" But, you know what? I didn't know better, and I did the best I could at the time.

It's so important to speak to ourselves as lovingly as we do our precious little children.

Yes, there are times we need to tell our kids to "Get it together!" We need to do the same thing to ourselves. But we can do so respectfully.

I think one of the things I've learned in my 30s that I didn't know in my 20s is a little more self-acceptance. However, it's a little bit of a contradiction:
- In my 20s, I had little self-confidence, self-loathing, and wasn't really sure who I was. And yet, I had a huge sense of entitlement.
- In my 30s, I have more self-confidence, more appreciation for myself, and am a lot more secure with myself. However, I appreciate everything I have and realize nothing was promised to me.

And although this song is designed for children, I think we can all benefit from its message. And, since I'm so secure with who I am, I have absolutely no problem admitting that I listen to this song and feel a big boost in my self-confidence.



So, here's my challenge to you: Talk to yourself the same way you would talk to a child. Respect yourself. Give yourself a break when you need it, and give yourself a little nudge (gently) when needed.

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